Hope you all are having a beautiful holiday. I'm having so much fun boring myself to death in this flat...lol. Christmas used to be so much fun, what happened? Oh yeah, I think I know what happened, my sibblings grew up. A few years ago, xmas eve, xmas day and boxing day were strictly for me and my sibblings. They'd get into my car and we'll drive around Lagos sight seeing, shopping, visiting fun places like the beach, the Apapa Amusement park (wonder if that place is still functional), go see a movie, have lunch at an expensive restaurant (I used to save for months for my xmas trips with my sibblings), and this happened for so many years until...was it two years ago? I told them 'hey guys get ready we're going to so so and so place', they looked at me and said 'you and who? please find your own way and we'll do the same'. lol. My sisters grew up...even my 16yr old baby sister now wants to hang out with her friends instead of her darling older sister...oh well, what can a girl do? ;) I have to find ways to entertainment myself now I guess...
Anyway, I'd like to say a big thank you and happy holidays to everyone who sent me a text message yesterday. My sis told me I got a lot of Merry Xmas messages from my blog readers and facebook pals...I haven't read your messages 'cos I'm not around her, but I will and I appreciate you guys. Gracias!
Speaking of a fun xmas, I hear Calabar is the place to be. I've never been there but I've seen pictures from their xmas carnivals and what fun it is...
If you don't believe me then check out pix from their 08 Calabar Carnival...
Rita Dominic
Ramsey Noah
The Governor of the State
I hear a lot of celebs are there. I wish I was there instead of this boring Lagos. Oh well, maybe next year. Will definitely get you pictures from the carnival...
Sad! I used to like listening to him speak...
And finally here's something someone sent to me that I'd like to share with you all, especially the ladies.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies and to men who can handle it....
You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
